Have you ever looked in the mirror and thought, “Damn, look at me! I’m so sexy!”
Nope. Haven’t done that.
I look back at images at myself when I was young and thin and even back then, I always thought there was something wrong with my body. I see my daughters doing the same thing. Why do women do this? I just shake my head at myself, along with all the other women I see criticizing themselves. We’re all so beautiful and strong in our own individual amazing ways.
I have noticed that as I get older, there has been an increase in my self-confidence. More often than not, I look in the mirror and like what I see. I’ve worked my ass off (literally) through running and strength training, along with healthy eating. It has paid off. I feel strong and healthy. Yesterday my daughters and I decided to sit outside and soak up some sun and I put on a two-piece bathing suit. As soon as I walked out, both of my daughters exclaimed, “Mom! You’re so skinny now!” I probably looked at them like they were crazy – or blind – but part of me was grinning ear-to-ear. And then, of course, both girls started talking about how they need to lose weight. I told them to stop it, they’re both beautiful, but isn’t that what all of us women tend to do? Put down ourselves? We need to be thinner. We need to be prettier. We need to be smarter.
A friend of mine recently said it best. She stated on Facebook:
“Why do I think I need to be smaller and take up less space? I’m 5’11” and somewhere between 160 and 165 lbs. If I was a man, I’d be just fine but because I’m a woman, my “ideal”weight is lower. Well that’s just bull…so I’m focusing on muscle, strength, allowing myself to take up space and be enough exactly where I’m at. It’s hard as hell to be a woman…we have so much placed on us…so we really need to lift one another up…encourage each other. We are enough.”
Fist bump, Angelina! You’re so right! I think as women, we really do need to be each other’s strongest support system! I think instead of focusing so much on our weight, we need to focus on our health. As women, let’s be strong, energetic, and healthy, whether we are a size 16 or 2.
Stand in front of the mirror and strike your best super hero pose, get out there, and kick some ass, ladies!